What’s romantic?

The other day someone was asking if after a zillion years of being married if there’s any romance left on the bones. My first instinct was to say … maybe not much. We don’t do the big gestures very often, but after thinking about it, I realize we never really did. We aren’t big gesture people, it’s always been about the little things. And I like it that way.

But yesterday after a long day working on a book that’s coming due, Alpha Man took me out to my favorite Japanese place, and after that, he made a quick stop at the bakery. He asked what I wanted and I said nothing because they never have what I do want, which is an old fashioned chocolate dipped donut. Two minutes later, he came out grinning from ear to ear.

“Don’t tell me, ” I said. “You got yourself a dozen.”

And he handed me a fresh out of the oven and just dipped in chocolate old fashioned donut. It was warm and still dripping chocolate. I couldn’t get it in my mouth fast enough. And when he tried to talk to me on the drive home, I held up a hand and told him I couldn’t talk now, I was having a sexual experience all by myself with a donut.

So I guess romance isn’t really dead, even after all these years. 🙂

22 Comments on “What’s romantic?

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  1. Thanks for sharing. It really puts everything into perspective! It is the little things that count! Congratulations on your relationship – they are hard to come by!!

  2. I agree, We have been married 44 years and have been together 46 years next month. It’s the little things that mean so much. My husband is a hand holder and will hold my hand even if we’re just sitting and watching TV. He doesn’t do the grand gestures but I know he still loves me and when we laugh together sometimes that’s better than anything!

  3. Those kind of ‘gestures’ are the best! And we know AM takes great care of you…and dodges the death ray when he secretly finishes your cookie stash. 🙂

  4. Your hubby is one of the BEST. A true keeper. He listens to you, takes care of you and saves you for all sorts of beasties ( spiders, bear, etc. ) Yes he is a keeper. Keep him close to your heart while you have each other.
    I lost my husband it will be 15 years in a couple of weeks. He had health issues but at the end we only thought he had the flu. It was not and within a two week span he was gone. In the end he was in so much pain I could not even hold his hand and he was on a resperator so he could not even talk to me. I miss him every day. He was my hero who saved me from the dark, all kinds of bugs. He took care of us. Savior your time together, life is too short. Just do not let him get a big head from this.

  5. Chocolate donut story —-very romantic. You are both blessed to have one another.

    Now, I will show how sad I truly am.

    In the first cartoon version of Tarzan – there is a scene where he is slowly removing a glove from Jane’s hand. Finger by finger. I thought that was a very erotic, tender and romantic gesture.

    I agree, sweet and kind gestures are absolutely lovely. Knowing that someone thinks of you on a regular basis, just because…..that is tremendous.

  6. I agree with you and everyone else that’s posted. We don’t do the roses just because it’s Valentine’s Day either but my husband is constantly doing things for me or bringing me things he knows I’d like.
    I remember years ago I had a friend who got engaged and then married and we shared an office. He called her several times a day and they cooed and gushed. Well, about 3 or 4 kids later – divorced.
    I’m very happy keeping it real with my wonderful husband for almost 47 years. I think I’ll keep him!!!

  7. It’s the bringing flowers because they reminded me of you, a coffee on his way home after a long day, the ‘let’s go out to tea’ when he knows I’ve had a stressful day dealing with our disabled son that are more romantic than the ‘forced’ romance of Valentines etc

  8. We have been married for 44 years. We are not big on “romantic” gestures but it’s the everyday things that are important. Last week I mentioned that I had to do laundry the next day. We keep the laundry basket in our bedroom, the washer is in the basement. It was pretty full that day, with sheets, laundry from the weekend away, the usual. Just after breakfast my husband (who has balance and carpal tunnel issues) carried the basket downstairs for me because it was “heavy.” It’s the little things.

  9. I love that! We have been married 31 years and also my man has never been the romantic type but it’s the little things he does for me on a daily basis. What would we do without our alpha men😊

  10. One Valentines Day, I was the only woman in the office who didn’t get roses. But, I was also the only woman who didn’t dig her own car out of the snow. I would rather have a personal gesture than a Hallmark moment any day.

  11. Lol your story telling is wonderful. I could visualize you eating the drippy donuts. The little things are so important to me so I agree with you. Enjoy your day.

  12. So true. It’s the thoughtful little things and great communication that win out. Congrats for the relationship you have.

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